Some years ago, my wife and I were having trouble communicating with one of our high-school-age daughters. To help resolve the situation, we came up with an approach that worked well for us. I call it Two-by-Two, and in today’s blog, I’ll explain the method and when and how you might use it.   What […]


The common belief that we need to raise our children’s self-esteem has become a cultural dogma. I would argue, however, that promoting self-esteem is not the real issue and that trying to raise self-esteem can even be harmful. Moreover, our efforts to build self-esteem can further our separation from God and keep us from finding […]

Life-Altering Fallacies and How to Avoid Them: Successful Parenting (Part 2)

Last week we began to look at what it means to be a successful parent. I suggested that while some people have a feel for what this means, many remain confused. Let’s now look at some of the reasons for this confusion.   Expecting to control the outcomes. Parenting includes training and nurturing our children. […]

Life-Altering Fallacies and How to Avoid Them: Successful Parenting (Part 1)

I was dumbfounded. Sitting across from me in the exam room, my patient continued to review his lifestyle over the last two years. His son, who was in his early teens, had been playing baseball for a travel team. For nearly six months of the year, this boy’s family would spend their weekends at ballparks, […]